How many times have you heard someone say 'you are the only thing standing in the way of what you want'?
It’s the truth.
Too often we are our own worst enemy when it comes to going after what we want. Whether we’re afraid of failure or worse, afraid of success, we need to step aside and get out of our own way before the vision of what we want most comes to life.
Here are the 5 you need to give up now so you can get what you want -
1. Negativity + self criticism.
What you tell yourself is what you ultimately believe to be true, so filling your head with negativity and limiting thoughts are not serving you or helping you to achieve what you want.
Only you have the power to change your thinking. Turn those thoughts of worry, doubt and negativity into hope and faith. Leave yourself open to the possibility that with hard work and focused discipline, your big bold vision will come to life.
2. People pleasing.
Trying to please everyone is not doing you any favours and is only going to see you wind up stressed out, overwhelmed and feeling nothing but resentment towards the people you are putting before your own needs.
Honour yourself and give an affirmative ‘no’ when you need to. Only say ‘yes’ to things that are aligned with your goals and where you’re headed. Be honest with yourself first, then watch as things begin to flow in the right direction.
Time is the biggest resource each of us have so choose to use it intentionally on things aligned with your vision. Do your future self a favour now and nip this bad habit in the bud. Procrastinating is only getting in the way of what you truly want.
4. Fear of failure.
The safest way to avoid failure is to never start, because that way you’ll never lose! But if you never start then how are you ever going to know if you’ll fail?
Here are some fun facts for you:
- Oprah Winfrey was fired at 22 from her job as a television reporter and was deemed “unfit for TV”.
- Dr. Seuss’ first children’s book, And to Think That I Saw It on Mulberry Street, was refused by 27 publishers.
- Lisa Kudrow was cast as the original Roz in Frasier, but cut shortly after.
- Steven Spielberg was denied by USC’s prestigious film school not once, but twice.
- Lady Gaga got dropped by a major record label after only three months.
- Before Walt Disney built the empire he has today, he was fired by a newspaper editor because “he lacked imagination and had no good ideas.”
- Before J.K. Rowling had any “Harry Potter” success, the writer was a divorced singled mother on welfare struggling to get by while also attending school and writing a novel.
Uh huh. Even the most successful people have failed at one point or another and if you’ve never failed at anything then it’s a sign you're not moving forward or making any progress.
The trick to overcoming this is shifting your thinking. Rather than seeing failure as something final, view it as another opportunity for you to learn something new - about yourself and about what you like and don’t like.
Every time you fail, pick yourself up and take the lessons with you. It’s a sign you're getting closer to where you're ultimately meant to be.
Whatever you do: don’t give up!
5. Comparing yourself to people around you.
Each of us are on our own journey and comparing ourselves with the person standing next to us is a waste of energy and doesn’t actually achieve anything productive. Be happy and gracious for others and their success. Learn from them and be inspired by them because they are living proof that you can achieve anything you set your mind to.
Instead, focus on being the best version of you: show up, do the work + and good things will come your way.
You are worthy of all the success in the world.
I believe in you. So go make it happen.
Much love, Rachel xo